Post 3-the BIG surprise
Oh my God what was he doing to me? Luckily, Lucille walked in when she did. I thought about that moment ALL DAY! When I got home I had a new friend request. It was him and there was a message.
I responded back, “hi”.
We talked online for about 3 weeks before we finally met in person outside of work.
“So, it’s Tuesday. Where are my tacos?” He said.
“I can’t be making tacos. I have to keep myself summer time fine.”
“Well you look fine to me. What do you do to stay summer time fine?”
“This little thing called exercise. You may have heard of it. It gets your heart rate up and improves muscle tone and cardiovascular health. I run along the pier about 5 days a week.”
“Oh, well that sounds nice. When do you run? I may want to get in on that action. I usually work out in the gym but it may do me some good to get outside.”
Why did I have to open my big mouth? If we had never met up maybe none of this would have ever happened but how was I supposed to know? There were NO SIGNS. We started hanging out more and more after we met up. We had so much fun and had so much in common. I helped him study. I would study as well. I was in school to be a nurse practitioner. On days that he was off I would often stop by his place before my shift and we would watch Jeopardy together. I don’t know what made me ask but I did.
“So are you seeing anyone? He paused slightly and looked somewhat shocked by the question.
I was shocked by the answer but it was just like that. “oh, I said.” I didn’t know.
“Yeah, I don’t like to broadcast my personal life. In a world of social media everyone is so…OPEN. I like to maintain my privacy.”
“Oh, ok.” I was stunned. I thought I had done a thorough check. I had real feelings for him and he wasn’t even available. How stupid could I be? It didn’t matter. I pulled back BIG TIME. I didn’t answer his messages online and stopped hanging out with him outside work. One day he called me out on it and I just told him. I was NOT that type of girl and I would not betray another woman. I wouldn’t like it and I sure was not going to do that to someone else. He was very charming though. He would send me smiley face emoji’s and tell me that he missed my friendship. He told me how he wasn’t happy in his relationship but didn’t know how to let go because she was his best friend and tried so hard to make him happy but he just wasn’t.
Initially, I tried to keep my emotional distance. I could be friends. Don’t do anything other than be friends. Bad decisions always start with good intentions. I tried to give him advice about how to improve his relationship with his girlfriend. They had been together since high school and according to him, “she is the sweetest and most kind person that I know.” Yeah, yeah that is great buddy. You should lead with that next time you are rubbing your dick up against me in the nourishment room. It would save me on my panty bill. Anyway, I was the perfect friend but the chemistry between us was undeniable. I remember when things changed from friendship to something more. I had a test coming up so I asked him to help me study. It was raining. I was tired and fell asleep on the couch. He woke me up around 1am.
“Let’s go to bed.”
I wasn’t even thinking. I got up and followed him into his bedroom. He put his arm around my waist and I drifted off in the comfort of his arms. They next morning he kissed my forehead before he left for the hospital.
Is that friendly? I didn’t say anything about it that day but brought it up casually later. He couldn’t do things like that. We were just friends and he was an involved man. It should have never happened. All of my feelings were validated. He told me that his girlfriend was coming to see him and that he was finally going to end things with her. I didn’t show it, but secretly I was so excited. This was it. I finally found a good guy. Yeah, it was kind of sleazy that he was creeping behind his girlfriend’s back but he just didn’t know how to end things. I mean she was his high school sweetheart and best friend. It’s much harder to end things when the other person hasn’t done anything to you and have been with you for 5+ years. I rationalized the hell out of every red flag I saw. She just didn’t do it for him. She wasn’t the woman I was. He wasn’t in love with her. I convinced myself that this was meant to be and this would be the beginning of something great for us. He texted me while I was at work and told me it was done. He had broken up with her. Thirty minutes later he text me back and said that they had gotten back together. She was pregnant.
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